Picture this: The photograph of a person, completely naked, genitals exposed, lying on a hospital bed, arms outstretched in supplication, with an expression of terror, anguish, agony, and sadness on their face, and tears running down their cheeks. I hope--and I believe--that there isn’t anyone out there who wouldn’t immediately see this as evidence of an individual in a state of profound pain. Would it be acceptable to share such a photograph publicly, or on Facebook? Or would this be seen as unspeakably cruel, inhumane, humiliating, and wrong? I wonder why it is that it's considered not only acceptable, but often cute,...
Birth is not a learning experience for others. Birth is about you, and your baby, and creating the optimal conditions for the transformation you and your child will enact together. Resist the urge to invite people to your birth as a “gift” to your sister, or to teach your friend that home birth is safe, or to prove to your mother than you can do it. I can relate...
I get it, I really do. As a mother whose babies have all decided to be born at between 42-44 weeks’ gestation, I absolutely understand how difficult those last weeks and days of pregnancy can be, especially when we are bombarded on all sides by individuals and cultural messaging that tells us that babies need to be evicted from the womb based on an arbitrary timeline! The thing is though, peaceful, ecstatic births don’t come from trying. They come from...
I could never do that! I hear this from so many women, when I tell them I’ve given birth to 7 babies at home--and especially when I say that the last 5 of those were freebirths, which means I had no midwife or doula or other formal helper present. But I’m here to tell you, Yes you could.